Mom was always a polished woman. Her hair was dyed and coiffed, makeup smooth, nails long, red and shiny. She likes to match colors and usually had shoes, purse, belt and earrings all neatly coordinated. Even in the early stages of memory loss, she maintained this level of appearance.
Now it is a lot harder. She no longer drives, and amidst everything else that I do, I have not taken Mom to a salon for a while. For the first time in her life, the grey is seriously showing. I no longer take her to a nail place so she paints her own nails at home and does not do the best job of it. It’s a dilemma to me whether I should prioritize this more given her self image of a lifetime. Or whether it’s okay to let this go on the not quite as important list. Hair and nails are lower on my personal priority list but Mom was always different from me in this way. I wonder what others do about this particular issue. Sometimes I tell her we should go get this done and she says that she will do it tomorrow, or next week, or that she needs to let it grow more before getting it done. This last response from her confuses me so I just let it be.
With the delays in visiting a salon her hair is growing out a bit and Mom is getting more creative with her hair styles. I bought her a pack of different colored headbands and she likes to match them to her outfit. She also found some hair clips and uses them quite generously. I find it really cute but I don’t know that “cute” is her ideal look at almost 70.
We have agreed that I am taking her to a holiday party in a couple of weeks and this discussion led to an immediate assessment from her that she needed to get her hair done. I think she is right. The party will be the biggest social event she has attended in a long time. Good hair is a solid start. Maybe we will get bright red manicures together too.