Not quite the plan

on finding my groove as a 30 something single girl and caregiver for mom with dementia



Sometimes I find myself struggling  for activities that are more creative for Mom.  The other night she was feeling quite talkative after a long week in which I did not have a lot of time for her, so I was trying to make it a quality bonding evening.

Unfortunately, her stories can be hard to follow.  After listening to four attempts to tell me stories that were all slightly mystifying, including a moment of asking me whether I had ever met her husband (that would be my father!), I decided that we needed a new activity.  As we had chatted we had been watching and discussing my cat whose antics provide a lot of entertainment to Mom.  In watching my cat, I was suddenly reminded of the quality entertainment that is the crazy cat video on YouTube.  I pulled out my computer and we watched two different crazy cat videos to Mom’s absolute delight.  She was particularly amused by a ridiculous  series of cats sliding/ leaping into cereal boxes that was quite new to me.  It was wonderful to see the most genuine laughs I had gotten from Mom in months.  It used to be easier to get her laughing quickly and whether it has been my busy-ness or her declining communication abilities, there is a bit less laughter around our house.

YouTube is definitely going on my list of good activities for us.  It will be an interesting project to dig up some of the creative videos out there, so suggestions are welcome.  There is a quite a world of entertainment that Mom has yet to experience…


Author: notquitetheplan

I am a mid-30s single girl, trying to climb the ladder, get a date... and make sure Mom takes her meds. It's not where I expected to be. But it's where I am and this blog is about embracing that.

4 thoughts on “YouTube!

  1. So glad you found me and my blog about finding the humor in caregiving. I am now following you and your precious journey. Know that everyone who shares your journey is so very proud of you. We know how hard it is, how creative you become every day to maintain your sanity, your patience and your figure ( that Mac and cheese and homemade bread are soooo calling me to the comfort food table!!) and we gladly share your burden in any way we can help. Looking forward to your stories!

  2. Thanks Cathy! I was so happy to find your blog and see someone talking about some of the humor and fun that can be found in all of this.

  3. I’ve seen that cat video, so glad your mom enjoyed it. Is your mom a music fan? As you probably already know, music can have a positive impact on those with dementia. YouTube could be a great place to find performances of her favorite entertainer.

  4. I love cat videos! YouTube can be a great resource for entertaining someone with dementia – listening to old songs, watching old Lawrence Welk clips, crazy animals.
    I would like to suggest another blog post that suggests some Apps for dementia care:
    And tablet activities for someone with dementia:

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