Not quite the plan

on finding my groove as a 30 something single girl and caregiver for mom with dementia



In college, a professor shared the sentence with us, “the way you do anything is the way you do everything.”
For some reason this concept flits through my mind constantly.  Is it true?  For some people?  Or do all of us have inconsistencies?

My mother tended toward the consistent, proving this sentence more often than not.  She was always organized, always capable, always classy, always thorough.  I am still quite capable of exhausting myself trying- always unsuccessfully- to live up to her standard.  

Most of those qualities that most defined her for so many years are gone now.  I sometimes have to remind myself that just a couple of years ago, she was the most together person I knew.  The memory fades as I assist her with increasingly basic tasks.

But this morning, I watched her pull a large bottle of orange juice out of the refrigerator.  Mom stood there with the juice, fully focused on shaking it.  It was a lengthy, thorough job.  And in that moment, Mom was fully her competent, thorough self.  That juice was properly shaken.

It is a funny thing to have noticed.  I cannot believe that I am sitting here hours later writing a blog post about a second in the kitchen making breakfast.  But it was a moment of glimpsing Mom’s quintessential nature.  And it was good to see her.  


Author: notquitetheplan

I am a mid-30s single girl, trying to climb the ladder, get a date... and make sure Mom takes her meds. It's not where I expected to be. But it's where I am and this blog is about embracing that.

13 thoughts on “Glimpses.

  1. Amazing issues here. I am very happy to peer your
    post. Thanks so much and I am taking a look ahead to contact you.
    Will you kindly drop me a e-mail?

  2. Piece of writing writing is also a fun, if you be familiar with after that you can write
    if not it is difficult to write.

  3. Fine way of explaining, and pleasant post to obtain information about my
    presentation focus, which i am going to present in university.

  4. I like the helpful info you provide in your articles. I will bookmark your
    blog and check again here frequently. I’m quite certain I will learn lots of
    new stuff right here! Good luck for the next!

  5. Thanks for sharing your info. I really appreciate your
    efforts and I will be waiting for your next write ups thank you once again.

  6. Amazing issues here. I’m very satisfied to look your
    article. Thanks so much and I am having a look ahead to contact you.
    Will you kindly drop me a e-mail?

  7. I’m pretty pleased to uncover this web site.
    I want to to thank you for ones time for this particularly fantastic read!!
    I definitely enjoyed every part of it and I have you saved as a
    favorite to see new information on your site.

  8. Hello I am so excited I found your blog page, I really found you
    by mistake, while I was looking on Digg for something else,
    Anyways I am here now and would just like to say thank
    you for a remarkable post and a all round thrilling blog
    (I also love the theme/design), I don’t have time to browse it all at the minute but I have bookmarked it and also included
    your RSS feeds, so when I have time I will be back to read more,
    Please do keep up the fantastic work.

  9. Hello there, just became aware of your blog through Google,
    and found that it’s truly informative. I’m going to watch out for brussels.
    I will be grateful if you continue this in future.
    Lots of people will be benefited from your writing. Cheers!

  10. I know this if off topic but I’m looking into starting my own weblog and was curious what all is required to get setup?

    I’m assuming having a blog like yours would cost a pretty penny?

    I’m not very web smart so I’m not 100% positive. Any suggestions
    or advice would be greatly appreciated. Cheers

  11. I do not know whether it’s just me or if perhaps everyone else encountering problems with
    your website. It appears as if some of the text in your content are running off the screen. Can someone else please comment and let me know if this
    is happening to them as well? This may be a problem with my web browser because I’ve had this happen previously.

  12. Hi, i feel that i saw you visited my weblog thus i came to return the desire?.I am
    attempting to in finding issues to enhance my website!I suppose its ok to use some of your ideas!!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s