Not quite the plan

on finding my groove as a 30 something single girl and caregiver for mom with dementia

Our organized living room.


Our living room apparently is a prime spot in Mom’s need for organization. Mom always was a highly organized person and now feels an ongoing need to engage in organizing type activities.

So, when Mom gets her hands in it, mail is organized into boxes to be taped shut. Worn clothes are organized back into the drawers. Clean clothes are organized out of drawers and into neat piles on Mom’s bed.

The one that most fascinates me is the living room. It is the place that Mom most focuses her organizing energy. So many things are organized onto our coffee table: a childhood toy of mine, items from my toolbox, photos, jewelry. The living room seems to exert a strange magnetic pull over items from around the house. Sometimes bags of clean clothes drift down there out of the upstairs closets.

From my perspective, our living room feels like a place of chaos. And yet, it’s a strange ordered chaos in which items are grouped or lined up neatly. Pillows are straightened on couches. Mom seems to be able to achieve some level of micro order while the macro eludes her. I cannot help but wonder at what particular brain circuitry brings us this kind of organized chaos.


Author: notquitetheplan

I am a mid-30s single girl, trying to climb the ladder, get a date... and make sure Mom takes her meds. It's not where I expected to be. But it's where I am and this blog is about embracing that.

4 thoughts on “Our organized living room.

  1. I very much appreciate the inside view of your mom’s behavior and your world. It is so worth studying and paying attention to for anyone who is a caregiver. Wish we understood more.

  2. Incredible. Enjoyed the inside look. Can imagine you have incredible patience.

  3. Bless you for taking a step back to give your mother room to meet her own needs even when you can’t understand their source. I can only image how empowered and secure your acceptance of her needs must make her feel. Thank you for sharing your journey.

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