Not quite the plan

on finding my groove as a 30 something single girl and caregiver for mom with dementia



The other day I walked in the door after work and Mom was sitting at a table near the door.  She looked up at me, beamed and began to clap her hands.

It was delightful.  How often do you get a round of applause just for walking in the door?  Somehow it felt just about right after an exasperating day at work.

But it made me think about how many of us could do with a little applause. We work in quiet ways in our homes or offices without a moment of public appreciation.  I began to picture the applause that all of us caregivers in particular deserve. 

Picture it with me.  You survive one more day of caregiving.  In your moment of finishing the day exhaustion, you watch a symphony hall worth of people leap to their feet to give you the standing ovation you deserve, just for today. 




Author: notquitetheplan

I am a mid-30s single girl, trying to climb the ladder, get a date... and make sure Mom takes her meds. It's not where I expected to be. But it's where I am and this blog is about embracing that.

11 thoughts on “Applause.

  1. You have the most positive attitude toward your life. You and your mother share a relationship that seems remarkable. As a daughter, I envy you. As a mother, I aspire to be your mother (minus the dementia if possible, but even with that cost in the equation)

    • My mother would be so proud to read these words! One of her greatest goals was to stay positive and to raise her kids to be positive. Your words make me think she might have been successful!

  2. :)Beautiful Post…clap, clap, clap…encore…encore!

  3. Lovely. I like the sound of the applause!

  4. I’m giving you a standing ovation from my desk in Redmond, Washington. Bravo!!!

  5. I shared this with my nursing office today. As a daughter and nurse, there are days I wish for applause. Maybe once a week? My applause was my love pats from mom. I miss her immensely. Six weeks.

  6. I hope you don’t mind that I have reblogged this, I will remove it if you wish. But, I wanted to share a little deserved applause with others.

  7. Pingback: Reblog, “Applause.” by Not Quite the Plan | Daring to Dream......

  8. Love it, we do this at work when someone retires, we all clap as they take the elevator down for the last time. I’ve always liked that tradition. But we could certainly use a round of applause more often!

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  10. Thanks to Boomer98053, I was able to read this lovely post. Well done, my friend!

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